Knowing when to speak or keep silent says a lot about your character. Silence speaks volumes, but it speaks only in certain situations. The other times, you wil be screamed at for keeping quiet.
Remember that time when you were asked for your opinion and you didn’t say even though your mind was brimming with ideas, then another’s suggestion (which may not be as good as yours) was used, And then you started beating yourself up because you didn’t speak up?
Or do you remember the time when Mr A came to vent his frustrations at Mr B to you, then you went ahead to tell Mr B a piece of your mind when you saw him, then Mr A hears that you told Mr B and gets angry at you? I’m sure that you blamed yourself for not keeping silent.
They say silence is golden. But the truth is as golden as it is, it’s not everytime it is needed. The Bible says in Eccl3:7 that there’s a time to keep silent, and there’s a time to speak up.
It can be confusing to know when to keep silent and when to speak. So, I’ll give you a few tips.
When to be silent
1) When you don’t have anything to say: Some people just talk when the the room is silent. It’s called mindless chatter and it’s definitely not called for. That someone is silent beside you doesn’t mean you should fill the space with noise. It just means that the person has nothing reasonable to say.
2) When you don’t have proof of what you want to say: This is self explanatory. This is basically how rumor starts. Please, if you can’t prove what you want to say, then be silent.
3) When no one listening: What exactly is the point of speaking to someone who isn’t listening? Just imagine speaking to a noisy classroom, it doesn’t make a difference.
4) When it’s not your place to say/when it’s better left unsaid: For example, there’s no point speaking when what you are going to say may cause trouble in someone’s relationship or if you are not the right person to tell someone something. It just doesn’t make sense.
5) When your emotions are high: In emotional charged situations like debates or when in an argument with a friend or whomever, it is best not to say anything that may hurt your relationship. Step back, observe to gain perspective before talking.
When to Speak:
1) When you are able to cause a change
2) When your opinion is asked for
3) When you want your feelings to be known.
It is important to know when to speak or not speak. I’ll leave you with this: ‘Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues’ Prov17:28.
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